When I think of skinny or fat shaming I think of an old Britney Spears song “Piece of Me”.
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I have never been one to support any type of shaming. I never liked being called fat and I sure as heck don’t like being called skinny.
When I was in highschool I was a very high quality athlete. I was always small. At 10% body fat, I weighed 100 pounds & could grab rim on the high school basketball goal in the gym. I was solid muscle and a very small girl, but you could call me mighty mouse.
When I had my daughter I was 180 pounds after birth. I struggled to even look at myself in the mirror. I felt as if I looked like a fat cow. My hubby never made me feel anything less than a MILF. I got called fat, was bullied on MySpace (2006), & eventually moved to Texas because of the bullying.
The picture in the top left, I thought I had seriously lost weight, & finally comfortable with wearing a bikini outside. I was slip and sliding with my child when I hear a neighbor yell I’m a fat whore. My daughter heard it. I was completely mortified & pissed. So I kicked in gear the start of my hard journey ahead.
The top right I was making progress. Never had anyone bother me for my weight then or in the bottom left picture (The 2014 Bezerker Mud Run), but the bottom right picture to the present time has been filled with skinny shaming.
I lost millions of friends when I lost weight, & what was once not acceptable “fat shaming” has turned into “Skinny shaming”. I have had people say I’m on drugs, anorexic, & so on. To work so hard to look the way I do, it hurt to be told I was on drugs.
Even the “fat” (I prefer unhealthy) family members love to skinny shame. So when I think if the song I think “She’s to big now she’s to thin”.
Why is it OK to call small petite people skinny & us small people aren’t allowed to say fat? It hurts both ways, no matter how you say it! Do you know why the person is skinny? Maybe the person is struggling with stress, PTSD, depression, a medical issue, ect. Just like I wouldn’t know why someone is over weight, you don’t know why a skinny person is the size they are. In my case, me being fat was because I was lazy, pure honesty.
I want people to think before speaking, because unless you know the person personally you don’t know the struggles they are under. Like mama always says, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”